"NO!"

Self-Realization is very important part of our lives so that all our negative attributes will turn into a good one. Most people do not show these traits because they are afraid of disapproval from their peers or simply called 'fear of rejection'. One of my negative side is simply saying 'No!' to somebody even if it may cause me to harm directly or indirectly. 

Saying 'No!' is difficult for me because the easiest way for me is just to say 'yes' to everybody who's asking me help or inviting me to drink. Last week, my new classmates in Master's degree invited me to come with them in one of the famous bar in the city to drink. For the last few months, I already told myself not to go to anyplace that will  only  corrupt my mind and tempt me to all the things I already regret in doing.  Maybe, I was afraid to say 'No!' because I'm afraid that they would call me 'Killjoy' and i just want to have friends because they can be my classmates for the next months and friends is very important in school to survive. I told them that I would go with them but I won't be drinking any alcoholic beverage. But when they started drinking and all I saw in the crowd was screaming and laughing out loud when a group of men working in that bar let girls ate bananas that were shaped like a penis, I also saw a group of girls and gays giggled when they gave a cake present with a form of penis also in there. I also laughed with them but it was the opposite of what I learned in Church. 

In our society now, people are passing this culture of  sex-preoccupied. I remember when I go to  church last week that talked about the song of Katy Perry when she's telling about making all the way with love with no regrets and not to look back. Youth today need to understand that  every decision they are making today determine their future. The way we see in life, marriage and love affects how we make choice in the future. One of the problems now a days are early pregnancy when all the dreams of most women disappear. Youth today already forgot that there is a creator who created them and just go on with life with no purpose.

After college, I met a man who influenced me to smoke a cigarette. At first, when he asked me to lit a cigarette i said 'No!' because I really didn't like the smell of it since I was  young. But when he persistently told me that cigarette helps him to relax if he is tense, that it gives a good feeling when you are smoking, I again said 'Yes' i will try.   Then  after I tried, it began for me to lit more and more up to a point when it became a vice for me. It looks good for me especially in a public. Now, that I am born again, I am faithful to what I promise that I will never go back to life like that again.  My health was compromised because i got recurrent tonsillitis and there might be a possibility to remove my tonsils  if I do not stop smoking.   I'm still looking forward to a good health and life here on earth and in heaven.  Now I promise that i will have more guts to say 'No!' to any bad influence that will come my way.